-- by Joe Love
Whatever we want in life, a partner, more money, good health, a fulfilling career, or enlightenment, it all comes down to the same thing: behind all the wishes, behind all the desires, and beyond every symbol, we want to feel happy. After all, if we feel completely happy, what more do we need? And if we donít feel happy, there is not a relationship or career that can satisfy us.
All men and women want to find happiness, but you donít find happiness anymore than an artist finds a beautiful statue; he or she sculpts it from a shapeless stone. A musician doesnít find an intricate melody; he or she composes it from the eight note scale.
Happiness is not an acquisition, itís a skill. We donít experience happiness because of something that weíre getting, like a raise or money. We experience happiness because of how weíre living. For example, having a tennis racket doesnít make you a good tennis player, learning how to play tennis does. Having material things doesnít make you happy; living each moment of the day to the fullest does. Happiness is living in the present moment.
Getting the things you want in life wonít make you happy unless you know how to enjoy every moment. For example, if you donít know how to enjoy five hundred dollars, you will not enjoy five thousand dollars when you get it, or even five hundred thousand dollars. If you canít enjoy taking a walk in your neighborhood, and you travel to Hawaii, Paris, or Rome, you wonít be any happier there either. Now Iím not saying having money or taking more trips doesnít make your life easier or more fun. It does. But those things donít make you deeply happy because they canít. Only enjoying lifeís real moments can.
If we look closely at our lives, most of us donít feel very happy much of the time because we focus our attention on precisely the things that make us feel bad, our problems, and the issues we have in our personal and business lives. Like a rainbow, happiness appears before us at times, but itís always temporary.
Working toward material success, expanded awareness, and love helps to make our lives exciting and meaningful. Yet, the urge to find happiness may be our deepest human drive. Despite our achievement and successes, many of us have a sense that something is still missing in our life. And it is this feeling that causes us to continue to search for happiness.
Wanting to grow, expand, explore, and improve are natural human drives. But many of us think that when we find what weíre looking for, it will make us happy. Only to find that it doesnít. And when we keep trying to find happiness it only serves to reinforce our dilemma of never being able to find it.
Happy people create happiness. But, you canít pretend to be happy or engage in denial or repression. When you create happiness, you fully acknowledge and honor whatever emotions are passing through. You watch them like clouds passing by, but you focus your attention on the sunshine above the clouds.
If I could give you a formula for happiness, it would be: Become fully conscious of what youíre doing, perceiving, or experiencing in a given moment. Once youíre conscious of it, allow yourself to break through that illusion of separation and connect with the person, thing, or feeling. Our lives are made up of a succession of moments that occur all the time. Itís up to us to enjoy them.
For example, letís say youíre walking up a mountain that overlooks the ocean. You stop for moment and look out at the beautiful vista, and for a second you feel at one with everything, you have this kind of high feeling. Thatís a real moment of happiness in your life.
You deserve to have all the happiness that life has to offer. Make the most out of each moment in your life and enjoy it. Donít wait for happiness to come to you. Create it yourself with each moment. You can become the magician by creating happy experiences whenever and wherever you want.
Copyright(c)2004 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates,Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.
Joe Love draws on his 25 years of experience helping both individuals and companies build their businesses, increase profits, and achieve total success. A former ad agency executive and marketing consultant, Joeís work in personal development focuses on helping his clients identify hidden marketable assets that create windfall opportunities and profits, as well as sound personal happiness and peace.
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